Martin Howard
Fair Warning: There are things written that are controversial and will likely offend many readers. I ask you to keep this in mind. Jesus Christ’s entire ministry on earth was controversial, and He offended many people of that time.
Why do so many Christian men today feel stuck? Stuck as a husband, a father, and in their career aspirations. I believe the reason so many Christian men feel stuck is that they are confused by society and by the teachings of the modern church.
Up until the turn of the century, society had been slowly eating away at the masculinity that makes men, men. We were subjected to movies and television shows depicting men as idiotic and incompetent. Slowly, but intentionally, they were planting seeds of doubt in our minds.
By the 2010s, those efforts were put into hyperdrive. This was marked by the increase in forced indoctrination in the public and collegiate school systems of the LBG+ lifestyle. To accommodate it, we saw things like the Supreme Court unilaterally changing the definition of marriage and of the family structure.
And by the 2020s, the evil one had pulled out all stops to destroy any resemblance of masculinity in men.
It is no wonder why so many Christian men feel confused and stuck in the world today. And many, if not most, “churches” are not helping Christian men as they should.
Many of the so-called churches were infiltrated by the evil one to spread heresy by teaching a version of Christianity that runs contrary to God’s Word.
At the same time, society created buzzwords like “toxic masculinity” and told men they should be more sensitive. All while churches were promoting women into leadership roles.
Let me ask you, does your church have women in leadership positions? Does your church allow women to pray before or during the church service? Does your church ordain or allow women to be ordained as pastors? If the answer is yes to any of those questions, then your church has strayed from God’s Word.
Right now, you are probably thinking one of two things. Either that I am a male chauvinist or I am simply mistaken. Well, let me clear that up. I am not a male chauvinist, and I know exactly what I am saying. Let me explain.
I am not a male chauvinist. And I know I am not because I believe women have gifts that men do not have. For instance, a woman’s ability to connect in emotional ways is far superior to that of her male counterpart. God designed her that way. He gives men abilities He does not give women and vice versa.
Men and women were not designed to be equal. Rather, God designed us to complement one another.
When it comes to the church and in the home, God specified that it is the men who are to lead. Can a woman lead? Of course. Yes, they have the ability to lead. After all, leadership is a skill that anyone can learn. But it is not a woman’s responsibility or directive from God to lead in the church or in the home. There, leadership is reserved for the men. If you question that, I suggest you read 1 Timothy 2:12-13 and Ephesians 5:22-24.
For those who are like me, perhaps you are wondering what someone who believes in the Bible as written is supposed to do?
I say, stand firm in God’s Word. It is the playbook that God gave to us for a reason. And then surround yourself with other like-minded men of God. You are not alone.
